Good Times..

I dont know whether to categorise this post as a Good Times Post.. but looking back I can definitely say that these event's have helped me see life in a better perspective. So I would like to share this here though I mostly put fun stuff in this blog. This post triggered off when I recently saw Mahesh Bhat's movie "Woh Lamhe" where he put his real life affair with a paranoid schizophrenic Parveen Babi on celluliod.

Q is a person very close to me. She has schizophrenia. Initially I found it very difficult to accept that Q , a personI knew as cheerful and lively, to have "voices in her head". Doctor's usually say that in the case of Schizophrenia, more treatment is given to people around the patient rather than the patient herself. This process is very difficult for the people around the patient because you have to accept a reality which all your senses dont conform to. After a long period of gong through this, I ended up facing a question of what is reality anyways?? . Do we have a right to tell that a person is nut's, when the person can hear a voice as clear as we do when we heard Martin Luther King go " I have a dream .. " .. Does the collective reality of the so called sane world supersede the individual reality of a person.. Now let me come to the next important thing when we talk about schizophrenia.. What is love People talk about love all day long, and say that love is about caring, understanding etc etc . Ask Karan Johar and you will get so many definitions of love than you can't handle. But my experience has made me understand that there is a love that even trancend's different world's and realities and is probably the only cure for Schizophrenia.

Ok, I am being mysterious here. so let me give an example. Supose you love someone very dearly. When you say that you love that person. what do you mean. Is it the way the person looks, act's , care's etc etc .. Well I will completely agree with you. That is also part of love.. Only a idiot would state love as some hazy cloud in the middle of Utopia, which is ununderstandable and mysterious..... But let's get deeper. Suppose the person you love the most in the world, comes and tell's you that in the morning that she can see the GoldenGate bridge while looking out of the window, and when you check, its the same old lawn. Hmmm .. When she persist's that she can see the bridge, you would obviously take her to a Psychiatrist because that's where you take people who talk about stuff that arent there.. ( In that case all the politician's should be in a mental asylum i guess ) ... . The Psychiatrist invariably, gives her thought control pill's that reduces her perception of the "other world" but unfortunately of also of this world!! .. Ya thats the best all thosed blood sucking Pharma companies could do so far.. You realise over some time that with these drug's, thougt you have reduced the symptom's of the so called insanity and releived you of a lot of inconvenience in front of the public, you have also partially killed the person you knew and loved.. You consult with the Doc again and if the Doc is good, he will tell you reality.. " Dear R .. This is incurable.. This lady can hear what she is saying as clearly as you can hear me" .. What would you do .. show more doctor's .. ?? .. you can do that for year's and keep telling yourself that there is hope.. This is the moment of truth. You have to decide whether you love this person or not... You can choose to keep this person as a vegetable with you out of sight of the world for the rest of the person's life.. I have seen love reach out to see the other person's world.. Ultimately if you want the person you love back, you will have to see that person's reality too.. That's the only thing that will allow the loved one to cope up with two realities and ignore the one that she know's you are seeing just for her. Life wont be easy, but I can tell you that taking the tough route always makes you realise that it was a better choice in the end. If God forbid something like this happen's to your loved one, do not reject the person or try to violently fight it. The best way is to reach out and accept the other person's reality too.

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